We are not actively identifying specific triggers that cause frustration. Sometimes the emotions are so intense, the anger so raw, that we are blinded in the moments that follow. A blistering desire to act on the emotions, weather it be lashing out verbally or physically, it is just there; at the forefront of our minds.
Becoming aware of these potent emotions can help one to alter course. Through examination I have found that although I am going to encounter these emotions, I can subconsciously, over time, make a course shift from acting emotionally to acting with intent. Becoming aware, in the moment, of thinking traps that cause cognitive distortions, and examining if the story I tell myself is truly factual in the moment or just a thought based on inaccurate interpretations. It’s the forming of new habits that lead to calm, peace and happiness, and the releasing habits that can never lead to peace and happiness.
Recently,when I became frustrated, I removed myself from the situation, went to the window, and let myself settle, gathered my thoughts; then returned and found that a barrage of electronic stimulants such as instant messages, emails, and phone calls, which had contributed to the frustration was not as overwhelming. I acted with intent thereafter, accomplishing all my work within 30 minutes after my normal quitting time. It still took about an hour to truly settle.
Observing yourself, your thoughts, your actions, can lead to the creation of new habits and bring a sense of clarity. It can provide a pathway to real, lasting change.
I have found that the enjoyment of this time of discovery will fade; what will be left is the need for consistently and commitment. The courage to be honest with myself, look inward, and know myself.
Thoughts are things, they need to be subject to cross examination. There are waves of enjoyment, happy feelings, sad feelings, and so many others in this life. Some waves are great while others are not, but each must be ridden.
